Now it's been a few months, and we are obsessed with each other. Enjoy your dog for the dog that they are. Accidental biting can still happen (e.g. Edit: So he just 'bit' me. Everything you've mentioned is totally normal, especially for a dog adjusting to a new home. Rendered by PID 28740 on r2-app-0e39c901d7220919c at 2021-01-11 23:32:14.999928+00:00 running fbc03cb country code: US. I am an animal lover and just struggling! I just adopted a five year old, really sweet cat a week ago and really regret it. [Discussion] â General questions/topics seeking information; the default tag if no others fit, [Link] â Generic tag for links; include a description of the contents and potential discussion points. At first it seems like every unexpected thing is a huge, insurmountable problem. However, if you take the leap to adopt, I can all but guarantee it will not end in regret. At the dog park, he growled and ran up and down the fence with another small dog on the other side. When we got my pup I was so excited to finally not be alone, but the first night I cried. This is totally normal and you're going to be fine! And guess what!??!?! I Regret My Decision To Adopt, But Not For The Reasons Youâd Think. To help build it, spend time with your dog. I did a lot of research, have been looking at different dogs for months, and thought I was ready. Advice on this forum is absolutely not a substitute for professional advice from a certified behaviorist, trainer, lawyer, or medical professional. HE WAS FINE! ", [Help] â Need advice regarding behavior, health, or other dog-related topics. Has anyone else felt like this? He had destroyed his crate. Carpet torn up. He had his peanut butter kong toy, a kibble toy, bones, everything else you would need. Fences are a bad example. I didnt know what to do. It's extremely normal. [Breeds] â "What breed is my dog?" Keep in mind he came from a shelter where he spent most of his time in a cage/crate so those bars probably have a negative association for him. I recently (last week friday) adopted my first dog. That special bond happens because you and your dog know each other well and enjoy each other's company. Kinda. Pick one or two and work on it. He houdinied the thing and got out without the doors being opened. Totally normal. Get yourselves into a training class as soon as possible - that will help grow the bond. Don't worry everyone goes through this. Tags go in the title of posts and must be surrounded by [square brackets]. Thank you. Can you help put some of these anxieties aside and give me some advice to help me see through all this negativity? Joined May 27, 2019 Messages 2 Reaction score 0. I knew she was my dog right then and there, little Lilly, and as I was leaving I had the adoption forms in my hot little hands. I was ready to give him back, and I didn't sleep, and he was crying and yelling and had an accident and I thought he was just a bad dog. Other times we walk or are in stores and he seems fine to walk right by other dogs. They all say this is normal feelings after getting a dog. I held my breath and imagined life how it was so I could remember it before I opened the doors to hell. Constant feeling like I was way in over my head and making a huge mistake... but I stuck with him and I'm SO glad I did. When possible, give information such as height at the shoulder, weight, age, region of origin, and behavioral traits. I put an update in with more details but things were great! I'm just.. These feelings are totally eclipsed by the joy and contentedness that my dog brings me, but they still happen occasionally. I turned on my iTunes to The Beatles, and closed my bedroom door without a huge goodbye love fest. I know theres an adjustment period. Aim to educate. Your dog has been through a lot lately and still adjusting to his new home. I couldn't handle being alone while my husband worked nights, and I would panic like crazy. Cats are so easy, you can leave them for a weekend, even longer, with extended feeders. I took him out and he peed and pooped. [â]throwaway4477880[S] 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children). Challenges will always come up but you will find a way to work through them! I adopted my first dog about a month and a half ago and even though I did a ton of research beforehand and knew it would be hard, I guess you really don't know until you experience it. [â]throwaway4477880[S] 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children). He needed time to adjust to his new life with strangers, and I needed time to get to know him. Wooh another fresh one like me! It won't be long before he's part of your life and these feelings are a distant memory. AH. Contrary to despicable cat person propaganda, dogs can be downright brilliant. :] Thats a cute story. Even so, I wasn't fully satisfied with my kitties and wanted a more loving animal companion. I just got off the phone with a local trainer who is so lovely and nice. I dont know.. He said he opened the garage door and the dog was out of his crate. He's a two year old rescue and I knew it would be hard to break his habits or something but now Im worried. "What breeds are right for me? I thought I was ready for this. I can pat him and play with him and it's fine, but I just don't have the bond I thought I'd have with him. Not saying this is a solution, just that over time dogs will mature and things will get better! Thereâs the Pit Bull whose singing voice is identical to Whitney Houstonâs, thereâs the Border Collie whoâs smarter than some adults, and thereâs the Supreme Court dogs, just to name a few.. I know it was going to be a lot of work but I didn't know the amount of effort it really took. He is a two year old dog, so not a puppy. Should I? I recently adopted a 6 month old Australian Shepherd/Australian Cattle Dog (Texas Heeler) mix and holy crap is he a handful. So a few days ago I adopted a beautiful dog (unknown breeds) and to be blunt and to the point - I'm regretting it. When I first brought my dog home, I was so stressed because he seemed to have separation anxiety issues. Advice on this forum is absolutely not a substitute for professional advice from a certified behaviorist, trainer, lawyer, or medical professional. Just as if you give birth to a child with special needs, your child by adoption may have special needs that require a lot of time, emotional involvement, & financial resources to overcome. This is another living things life in my hands. I dont even think thats an option. ": For best results, include clear photos of the dog standing from the front and from the side. The site may not work properly if you don't, If you do not update your browser, we suggest you visit, Press J to jump to the feed. I watched some youtube videos and saw how dogs do it. Even when I was sitting on the couch, he would go chill in his crate or in the other room so I didnt think he had separation issues. http://www.aspca.org/pet-care/virtual-pet-behaviorist/dog-behavior/weekend-crate-training take a camera with you to take lots of pictures in the hospital. I donât even regret the dog with untreated Addisonâs who had food aggression. I promise you're not alone. It's adoption blues, if you keep up trying to bond with your dog and keep making efforts it WILL pass! Hang in there. She does boarding, training, doggy daycare. Did I make a mistake? It's hard at first and completely overwhelming, but you'll both get through it! And right now I havent exposed him enough. I even thought about returning her, too. She is great and she's already come a long way, but it is so so hard at times. I found a dog I really liked. But I think I'm having buyers remorse. Is this normal? A dog is a great addition to any family and I have had the privilege to own two dogs in my life so far. Instead, here are some tips on affording veterinary care and here is a list of organizations that can provide assistance. He hasn't been fixed and has a bit of a humping problem, but I think that will be fine once neutered (so not a worry). Thank you.. Just give your boy some time. adoption anxiety dog regret; T. Tikopia New Member. The [Fluff] tag cannot be used to post ordinary dog pictures. I never have trouble sleeping, we cuddle and talk and act like weirdos, and I would never give him up. Aactually met with a trainer today at her home and we were there for an hour and a half! I felt like a failure watching this because my relationship is unlike that of Michael Oher and Leigh Anne Touhy. If you regret having placed your child for adoption, I think your subsequent actions heavily depend on what your initial intent for placement was. Itâs also home to some of the more bonkers (possibly fake) relationship stories weâve ever heard. Our dog also nips (not too hard) when he gets excited/wants to play, but we're slowly teaching him to stop that by freezing and not moving until he's sat for 5 seconds. See our rules and guidelines. We also adopted a 2-year-old dog, and he pulled on his leash so much at first that I also broke down crying a few times those first few weeks. Am I just finding out that I genuinely should not be a dog owner and should surrender him soon because I don't deserve a dog? She became comfortable, and in the process, that made things easier for me. I read everything and want to reply to everyone. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. [Fluff] My dog learned to hide and jump out at us to scare us when we come up the stairs, [Discussion] Handicapped German Shepherd passed, looking to gift her wheelchair to anyone who may need it. The subreddit r/BeforeNAfterAdoption urges people to share the amazing difference a loving family can make on an abandoned or mistreated animal. vi. [â]theastroslothgreyhound 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (3 children). I just don't think I was ready for what having a dog would entail. A week and a half ago!? I dont like all humans. They do training, boarding, doggy day care, and grooming. Give the dog time to adjust to your schedule, and give yourself time to fit the dog into yours. Breathe. Get him a tune-up: Schedule a first visit to your dogâs new veterinarian during the first week (or immediately upon adoption if you have other pets at home or suspect your new pup might be ill). WITH NO PROBLEMS!!! (self.dogs), submitted 5 years ago * by throwaway4477880. Some dogs have to be taught to appreciate their crate and some are perfectly trustworthy without one. And this must be scary for him, too. Try to make a yelp if you can and just leave, don't even look at him. Look up "puppy blues" for similar stories. There are excellent tutorials on how to do basic things one day at a time on /r/dogtraining. This is totally normal. It's not a "love at first sight" type of thing. We actually did have a two week trial period where we would be refunded if she didn't fit our situation and I thought about returning her everyday. We adopted our second dog a week and a half ago. You're gonna be fine. [â]throwaway4477880[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). But then I remember that our other dog took way longer than this to make the same progress that she has already made - they just need some time! It's a normal process! [â]beeasaurusrexJaime BC/AS mix 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child). Maybe its my fault for not leaving him as much as I should have those first three days over the weekend. /r/dogs is a discussion-based subreddit, meant for asking questions, sharing information, and learning about our beloved canine companions and related dog-centric topics. Training definitely is important, but it seems like some of the problems we were having with her just kind of disappeared. Many pet adoption contracts require you to return the pet to the shelter if the adoption doesnât work out. It can take time, but it should work. Just take a deep breath and keep moving forward. This dog who decided he'd just check on the dishwasher while you were away. Please consider pet insurance or set aside a small amount of money every month for future veterinary expenses. Even now, almost 18 months later, there are times when I feel a twinge of regret. Oh, how terrible I was for leaving her in her crate. AD. Despite missing toe, cancer fight, family doesn't regret adopting senior dog, Gus Back to video Despite everything, Gus had a friendly disposition and a magnetism the Fryes couldnât say no to. [VENT] My letter to Finley, who we re-homed yesterday. This subreddit is a great starting point for a lot of information, but you should always verify and expand upon what you've read before putting it to use in your daily life. No pee or poop in the bedroom! Posts are automatically locked. April 11, 2003 . Our mutt was like this when we got him, I couldn't walk through the garden for the first 2 months or so; all better now. I did a lot of research, have been looking at different dogs for months, and thought I was ready. I know its only been like four days but now I'm feeling anxious. once you get a handle on that, everything starts to fall into place. You'll be okay :) as everyone said, it'll take some time for crate training to work out, and for your new pup to adjust to his COMPLETELY NEW LIFE, but he will. In the meantime I recommend a glass of wine or similar! Wondering what to do when your boyfriend gives away your Hamilton tickets?What about if you need advice on how to get your girlfriend to stop writing you so much poetry?For many people, the r/Relationships subreddit is a community to help navigate lifeâs romantic quandaries. What is going to happen to my social life (which by the way, usually consists of my boyfriend and I on the couch watching Netflix). Search the subreddit for questions similar to yours. Then today I took him to a trainer/boarding place. Trust me, it's definitely worth it. And maybe it was but maybe my problems aren't so bad. I donât even regret the dogs I only had a short time because I learned soooo much! Who knows. And it was so lovely to see him acting like a dog!!!! i never regret the adoption. [â]breakmefaster 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child). I recently (last week friday) adopted my first dog. I'm not a patient person, and a dog has been a real test for me as well. Its an at home care with a woman and her assistant. Pictures are only allowed in approved, themed picture threads (such as Photo Friday). [â]TortillaSunriseGoofy-Eared Yellow Dog 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). In a few weeks you'll both settle in and it will be awesome. I have had 2 cats for about 5 years and always thought I wanted a dog. I will still come home at lunches but it seems the dog is liking this not crating thing. This reminds me of my situation. It's totally normal to feel overwhelmed, and yes, this is one of the greatest exercises in patience you can have. You might still be doubting, but more likely you'll be fine :) It's okay to feel this way, and if you find yourself still swimming in regret, know that there is no shame in returning a dog. I watched one of our cats (Khaleesi) grooming him! [â]prolixdreams 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). The risk of adoption disruption increases with age, from less than 1 percent in infants to up to 26 percent for kids adopted after age 15, according two 1988 studies. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. hello there, I had three tearful breakdowns yesterday after all the trouble with the crates and the other dog at the park. It could also be separation anxiety from being alone. Also, if you go the crate training route, which isn't bad (my dog is also crate trained and it's a godsend for car trips and bladder control), start from scratch - don't just put him there. i think about my daughter all the time. Really. Full descriptions may be found here. Oye, Im sorry its so cold where you're at. first off, I want to reassure you that everything will turn out okay! If possible, include information about your general location, otherwise responses will likely target the average US dog owner. Like speaking to the adoption people at the shelter and assuring them this is what I wanted and he was the dog for me. Use with the [Link] tag when linking to an outside web source. When I walk ihim on the street and he doesnt chase cars I am thankful. Babies; ... That movie is a high-level highlight reel of adoption and paints an unrealistic picture. and "What breeds are right for me? Check if your local humane society offers a low-cost clinic. It is SO up and down. Vent. So I picked up 3 days ago and our adoption adventure has begun! I think you're right. But still. hi! [â]smallfrog17 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago* (3 children). [Fluff] has anyoneâs dog invented their own games? Hes not a barker so theres that :] . She owns 3 dogs of her own. That is a better ratio than I have with humans. When in doubt, go to the vet. Pets become family, but you need to have a bond with them. First off thank you for all the encouraging words and kind advice. destroyed/gotten out of his crate but only so far as to end up in the garage and then didn't even relieve himself in the garage. I left his crate door open, he seemed to have slept in it a bit. It will be okay, I promise. "Adopters regret". I have had family dogs my whole life but this was my first one on my own. You'll be ok, I know it doesn't feel like it now but you will be ok. [â]fairspectre 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child). Perhaps your dog will adjust over time too. This is common. He was just chillin, looked up at me and I took him out without a huge "hello Im home lots of hugs and kiss". For us, we do not regret for one second either of our adoption journeys, because we have two amazing children who came the journeys. Multiple tags are fine. Spend time one on one. You worry he'd be better off with someone else, but he'd be just as much work for them. Everything will be fine. Give yourself a month and see how you feel at the end of it. Add tears for a full 2 weeks after she arrived and lack of sleep at night and you can imagine the mess I was. Anyway, it's worked out. I have a stable job with great pay, a loving boyfriend, I live in an apartment, and I thought I could do this. Nope. Im lucky >.< Thanks for making me feel normal about crying about this haha. Sigh. My dog is an ESA for me. Keep training fun for you both if it isn't go find another trainer or activity. So its a hit or miss if he likes other dogs. Alright r/dogs.. here's the scoop. when the klutz misses the toy and catches you) but that's just life I'm afraid,. Wait for the bond to set in and you will never look back. Like. Do not partake in a thread if you have nothing helpful to contribute. 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